I am not responsible for other peoples actions and reactions. I am only responsible for my own actions and reactions. The consequences are mine to carry And I will carry mine.

A consequence inflicted by another person is not your responsibility because this is action from another person. However, of course, I will have to deal with it its not something that I should take personally. This person’s actions will have consequences too for them.

Everyone already has there own load of baggage and things to deal with respect the other person, you can advise them and even let them know how you would handle things but it is on themselves to live their life, not on you.

Do what you believe is the right thing to do and if other people have issues with that’s okay. You are allowed and capable of making your own decisions. You can consult others if you are unsure but follow your own needs first. Because you are the one to deal with the consequences, not them.

Someone told me today: ” A person shouldn’t use their weaknesses as an excuse for their actions.”

On another note, a consequence for having to be too strong for too long can be depression. Let that sink in before you force ppl to be stronger then they are.

I won’t get into an argument or discussion with this person for personal reasons however it has brought me a lot of thoughts and wanted to reflect on it anyway. I trust this media, (my blog) to be a safe place to discuss what I want to discus provided I’m keeping this person and the situation anonymous and private.

A persons weakness can be many things, this can be an addiction or a handicap, it can be an illness of many kinds, mentally or physically, temporarily or permanently. And often those things are overcomeable. There are however weaknesses that ARE valid excuses why someone is not capable of doing something. So these words are a little harsh and easily spoken without being well thought through. In certain situations, I believe it would serve the person well who spoke those words if they would be gifted with compassion and understanding for others.

A reason is a cause for some circumstance. An excuse, on the other hand, is a reason given to escape the consequences of a circumstance.

Some consequences are extremely harsh looking at the things that caused it. “That’s life” some will say where others will look at the consequences and realize that this person already is dealing with more than enough consequences by the suffering they are undergoing from their actions or the reasons of their actions. Adding more consequences by the person who felt he/she was aggrieved may be even called unreasonable and nothing more than torture and exposing of power and him or herself being unreasonable.

It all depends on the situation But in the end, everyone has to deal with the consequences of their own actions. Life is hard enough already without other people trying to make it harder for us and playing karma cards.

Sometimes you need to tell lies to save yourself from very bad situations that are even life-threatening maybe. Telling lies could be a coping system you have learned when you were not able, to tell the truth because you did not feel safe to do so.

I have been in that situation where I was in a very abusive relationship and simply had to hide things and not only things I had to hide, my feelings, my thoughts, my needs, because anything could be used against me at any given time. It was a scary time that I saw no escape from.

It can be hard and very frightening to turn that around and feel free enough, to tell the truth again and show the world who you are. But its the only way to actually be who you are and start living again. If you don’t turn it around you will be living a lie instead of a life and sooner or later you will regret that.

It may become a habbit and you may think you need to tell lies to make others happy but instead you are going to end up hurting those that you love and who love you with your lies. You will become someone they can not trust. If you can tell lies that easily the people around you have actually no idea who you are and thats very scary to find out that someone you thought you knew is someone completely different. They don’t know anymore whats real about you and what is not.

So please when you can just be honest and genuine, be yourself, you are worth it and you deserve it. You where born to be you.

Be brave enough to be who you are and live your life!

Emotions are often received as being negative, causing problems and keepig you from reaching what you want, but the first thing you need to learn about emotions is that they have a use. Even better I like to think of emotions as being a gift. They tell us somethign about ourselfs, about what we need, it tells us that we need to change something or that we need more of something.

Each emotion tells us something different and they are often hard to define. because sometimes or even often they are overlapped by a secundairy emotion like anger. When we hurt a first reaction is often to get angry and fight the pain. When people asked me why i was so angry i often went confused. I wasn’t angry I was hurting why would people say I was angry I only understood after I started to look closer at my emotions.

When learning to understand our emotions and recognize our needs we also need to learn how to express our feelings or react to our feelings to receive what we need or at least understand what is happening and be able to respend in a better manner.

Its not our emotions that gets us in trouble, its our reactions. To learn more on this you could do research through google. I would but right now I dont have the patience and I am not sure when this topic will inspire me again to write something.

Use things and love people, instead of loving things and using people. In this world of so many miljons of people we still only have a small group of all of those people that we hang out with, come in contact with and have to work somehow together with to reach certain goals. Wheter its getting food on the table or just enjoying eachothers company.

Sometimes it is ok to “use” other people when it is to reach a common goal but then it’s rather called helping each other instead of one using the other. When helping each other using a common goal both are satisfied with the results. Sometimes someone needs your help and you don’t need their help and just because you can, like them or want to you help them out. The other person is grateful and appreciates that in turn someday when you need help and they can they are likely to help you in return. This is how things should be in my opinion.

More and more I come across peopl who just use others for their own gain and don’t appreciate the other coming to help out at all. Even when they are doing excactly what they where asked. It’s not nice, its even hurtfull to me when it happens to me. So this is why I decided to write a post on this topic.

Its mean, its nasty to use people. People are not tools you can pick up and drop whenever you feel like it. They have feelings, yes some are more sensitive then others and some speak up about it and others don’t. With a life time filled of abuse I came to an episode of my life where i am no longer going to accept it. Boundaries. DONT USE ME! If you need help, great ask me. If i do help, appreciate my help and don’t just ignore and abandon me in the middle of me helping you out.

When I come to you for help on something after I have helped you out and you can’t help, no problem but this shouldnt be the case everytime. I have distanced myself from close friends for this reason. I am not a tool. I’m a person and as loyal as I am I dont like being used and I am not going to accept it anymore.