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A moment in time

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I’ve decided to do a little study on fear, hoping it will help me coop with my anxiety attacks better when I have a better knowledge and understanding of whats happening with me and why. Some of the info came from wikipedia pages others from my own experiences and others.

Fear is a feeling induced by perceived danger or a threat which causes a change in metabolic and organ functions and ultimately a change in behavior, such as fleeing, hiding, or freezing from perceived traumatic events.  The fear response arises from the perception of danger leading to confrontation with or escape from/avoiding the threat (also known as the fight-or-flight response), which in extreme cases of fear (horror and terror) can be a freeze response or paralysis. Fear is a result of learning by experiencing or watching frightening events/accidents.

In humans and animals, fear is modulated by the process of cognition and learning. Thus fear is judged as rational or appropriate and irrational or inappropriate. An irrational fear is called a phobia. Irrational fear is caused by negative thinking which arises from anxiety.

Fear is closely related to, but absolutely not the same as the emotion anxiety, which occurs as the result of threats that are perceived to be uncontrollable or unavoidable.

Anxiety are sudden periods of intense fear that may result in sweating, shaking, shortness of breath, numbness, or a feeling that something really bad is going to happen. The maximum degree of symptoms occurs within minutes. There may be a fear of losing control or chest pain. Anxiety attacks themselves are not dangerous.

My personal anxiety attacks might be but are not only triggered by experiences from my past. A traumatized person like me can develop fear that can not be explained by past experiences directly. Example I have developed claustrophobia’s which can lead to anxiety attacks aside of the Phobia. I first came aware of this after I was past my 40’s. Before that experience I have been in such situations before but did not experience any anxiety or fear. The phobia lead to an anxiety attack.

My anxiety attacks come from overthinking/worrying about things that have yet to happen or might  happen or possibly can happen if all the elements of my thoughts occur as thus. Which rarely will happen like that but I scare my self so much with the thoughts of what can happen that it results in a anxiety attack. I have learned several techniques to overcome a anxiety attack but sometimes these  don’ t have much effect and the best is just to sit it out sometimes and keeping in mind it will pass just like it has  before.

My triggers for an anxiety attack are; fear of abandoning, rejection, not being cared for, not being loved, not  mattering, not being taken seriously etc etc…

I want to leave it at this for now. Take care and thnx for reading

I have been re-sharing a lot of posts lately about this pipeline and the native americans who are peacefully figthing the building of it. I can go into lengths as of why the usa gouvernement is at wrong and why that pipeline never should be allowed or what the gouvernement has done so far to try stop people from their protests. Blocking and disrupting service for cellphones in the protest area, false media messages about bombs, they have been placing roadblocks in the reservations far from the protest location to keep the native americans from joining the protests. The newest thing is cutting off their drinking water… AND YET STILL how amazing it is that the tribes come from allover the country to unite and join forces to continu their peaceful protest to protect nature and drinking water and keep the usa from breaking a treaty with the natives about this land. I would love to see this get more media attention in our country as well because i have read nothing about it on the big news sites. I am impressed by so much unity and power. I am dissapointed that people dont realize that nature is no racist. Nature doesnt see your skincolor when it serves you water or food, Nature doesnt check your dna before an earthquake strikes, Nature protects whats most dear to us, our earth therefor we should protect nature more then anything since its keeping us alive. Just because its at the other end of the world and no disaster happened yet that brings you pictures of a wasted river where thousends of people live of, doesnt mean we have to wait for it. Do something now. Bring in world wide media attention! bring in world wide human rights organisations, and bring out the truth! Support the NO DAPL Protests! SUPPORT OUR NATURE AND HUMAN RIGHTS.

Share my posts and if you have connections let them hear of this news as well. This should not be covered up.

A while ago I had a Discussion with someone about love and what it supposedly is. I came to the conclusion love is an action and a reaction.

If love isn’t only a feeling, what is it? Once the honeymoon wears off, love is primarily a verb, and to love someone is an active experience. Of course I would not go on to this topic without having done some research about my opinion as well. Because honestly I don’t like being wrong.

Here’s an article by dr becker Phelps it speaks of why and how love is an action. And here you find another interesting article about love being an action.

What else is love, Love is so much more then an action but if its one thing not then it is addiction. You can however be addicted to love. To live without love is extremely hard and may result in a short lived life.

So what else is love. I experience love as being an essential of life. There needs to be a form of love to make life livable in my opinion its either being loved or loving someone. This can be someone else but with the lack of other people in your life you may  have to relay on self love which is a very important factor in life. people who are lacking / missing self love ( self esteem, self worth) will find them self struggling with life much more then those that don’t usually.

To me love means having someone to look out for you, to watch over you and to catch you when you fall. To allow you to return all this as well. Trust and respect are most needed to keep a love relationship healthy and thriving. I have often thought of love being a play between fire and air, or water and air. It needs to keep moving it needs space to expand and grow where the heat of fire warms the air and the water cools it the air keeps the fire alive and water as well.

To keep your love relationship healthy you need to give each other the space to breathe. But you can’ go too far out of sight that the other feels lost. Its a constant interaction that keeps changing depending on the situation and the things life throws at us. Make sure your partner knows at all times they are loved and cared for and that you are there for them when they need them to. This also means you need to be prepared to be there when your partner needs you to be there for them. To love is to breath, in and out, give and take.

Mutual respect as I said before is important. We don’t truly know what lives in the other persons mind or how he or she feels. So being honest about this is very important. Make sure your partner is aware of how you feel you don’t want to feel shut out yourself either.  Love is easier when both partners can spend  time together and harder when there’s  a separation. The past affects the reactions people can have to certain things and may affect how love is given or received and how love is need to be received or given.

One that has been betrayed may need a lot more assurance then one that has not had this experience. Be understanding and interested in what moves your partner and whats going on in his or her life. Be part of your partners life. That does not mean you have to be involved in everything the other person does but it does mean that you do know who your partner is. Sharing is Love, Caring is love, trust is love and respect is love.

My love is one of a kind and will always remain for that what I loved. I have found out many times that what I loved was not what I thought it was, that doesn’t make my love less it just makes it being addressed wrongly.

I always will try to make sure you know I love you when I do. So if I do, you should know. If you don’t and are in doubt let me know so I can make sure you know if I love you or not. I may talk a lot about a lot of things but I also may leave out a lot. I don’t want this to come in between us if I love you. You can tell someone you love them but to make them feel it with actions has a way deeper impact and lasts a lot longer. Be there, Be loved and love. And please if at any given time you are unsure of my love? let me know. I’ll do what I can to assure you, for that’s what I would hope you do for me as well.