Love
A while ago I had a Discussion with someone about love and what it supposedly is. I came to the conclusion love is an action and a reaction.
If love isn’t only a feeling, what is it? Once the honeymoon wears off, love is primarily a verb, and to love someone is an active experience. Of course I would not go on to this topic without having done some research about my opinion as well. Because honestly I don’t like being wrong.
Here’s an article by dr becker Phelps it speaks of why and how love is an action. And here you find another interesting article about love being an action.
What else is love, Love is so much more then an action but if its one thing not then it is addiction. You can however be addicted to love. To live without love is extremely hard and may result in a short lived life.
So what else is love. I experience love as being an essential of life. There needs to be a form of love to make life livable in my opinion its either being loved or loving someone. This can be someone else but with the lack of other people in your life you may have to relay on self love which is a very important factor in life. people who are lacking / missing self love ( self esteem, self worth) will find them self struggling with life much more then those that don’t usually.
To me love means having someone to look out for you, to watch over you and to catch you when you fall. To allow you to return all this as well. Trust and respect are most needed to keep a love relationship healthy and thriving. I have often thought of love being a play between fire and air, or water and air. It needs to keep moving it needs space to expand and grow where the heat of fire warms the air and the water cools it the air keeps the fire alive and water as well.
To keep your love relationship healthy you need to give each other the space to breathe. But you can’ go too far out of sight that the other feels lost. Its a constant interaction that keeps changing depending on the situation and the things life throws at us. Make sure your partner knows at all times they are loved and cared for and that you are there for them when they need them to. This also means you need to be prepared to be there when your partner needs you to be there for them. To love is to breath, in and out, give and take.
Mutual respect as I said before is important. We don’t truly know what lives in the other persons mind or how he or she feels. So being honest about this is very important. Make sure your partner is aware of how you feel you don’t want to feel shut out yourself either. Love is easier when both partners can spend time together and harder when there’s a separation. The past affects the reactions people can have to certain things and may affect how love is given or received and how love is need to be received or given.
One that has been betrayed may need a lot more assurance then one that has not had this experience. Be understanding and interested in what moves your partner and whats going on in his or her life. Be part of your partners life. That does not mean you have to be involved in everything the other person does but it does mean that you do know who your partner is. Sharing is Love, Caring is love, trust is love and respect is love.
My love is one of a kind and will always remain for that what I loved. I have found out many times that what I loved was not what I thought it was, that doesn’t make my love less it just makes it being addressed wrongly.
I always will try to make sure you know I love you when I do. So if I do, you should know. If you don’t and are in doubt let me know so I can make sure you know if I love you or not. I may talk a lot about a lot of things but I also may leave out a lot. I don’t want this to come in between us if I love you. You can tell someone you love them but to make them feel it with actions has a way deeper impact and lasts a lot longer. Be there, Be loved and love. And please if at any given time you are unsure of my love? let me know. I’ll do what I can to assure you, for that’s what I would hope you do for me as well.
