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Panic attacks and Anxiety attacks

Tuesday, December 27th, 2016
My personal findings on panic attacks that most people don’t know and that you can’t see on the outside of me most of the time but that are important to know to understand my reactions to things often. They are also just one of the many symptoms of my C-PTSD. On another note. Panic attacks and Anxiety attack are not the same. An anxiety attack often comes in reaction to a stressor. Panic attack on the other hand doesn’t come in reaction to a stressor. It’s unprovoked and unpredictable. Panic attacks often leads to an anxiety attack or me. I will come back to that at the end of my post about panic attacks. Sometimes its really hard to determine which I am dealing with.. panic or anxiety.
 
Panic attacks happen to me spontaneously, with no time to prepare at all. One minute I feel fine, and the next, its like I’m in a war zone and have no idea how I got there or out of there. My heart started racing, I start sweating, the room begins to spin in more extreme cases, my whole body feels weak if I feel it at all, and my breathing can get rapid and uneven but usually I’m unaware of my breathing. More often than not, an attack happens in a noisy, crowded place or during conversations, heated or not, so I will want to escape for fresh air and avoid the stressful situation. I can also react completely irrational more likely then not out of this fear that’s overwhelming. Often the way I perceive a situation can trigger this same response, and even cause a anxiety attack because of my extremely heightened levels of anxiety due to my traumas.
 
Panic attacks don’t always happen to me in large, bustling places, they also happen to me during sleep, while sitting at home in my room, while preparing diner, watching a movie, listening to music and does not always have a precursor. The scariest part for me as a person with panic attacks is that I can’t predict when another one will come along. This leads that I often avoid places, emotions, music, movies and situations that might trigger an attack, or certain places. More and more I can lead back my fears to the cause but that is still not the same as being able to handle the attacks or my response to it
 
If you haven’t ever experienced a panic attack, then it’s difficult to understand just how terrifying it really feels. People who have panic attacks have described it as feeling like a heart attack, dying, a stroke, and other serious complications. It feels like you can’t control your body, like it does whatever it wants and you just have to watch, horrified and scared for five or ten minutes until I’m able to act/react to it. Panic attacks might not be life-threatening, but they sure feel like it to me.They are simply put THAT scary.
 
Everyone responds differently to healing techniques, sometimes I can’t respond to any of them positively, unfortunately. Natural remedies such as meditation, essential oils, and other “alternative” medicines can do wonders, but even these remedies does not always work and they don’t cure someone of panic attacks completely. Coping techniques certainly helps me to learn how to manage my panic attacks, but that neither takes them magically away.
 
I can respond very irrational and and even in anger and may not always make sense to other people when I’m in the middle of an attack. Anxiety and panic attack both. All I might be focused on is to control the attack and looking for ways to distract myself to calm down
 
I learned that many people become drawn to substance abuse such as alcohol or drugs in order to calm their nerves. While this is understandable,in long term use it leads to addiction as the person requires more and more of the substance in order to feel calm. Also there are many more substances one can become addicted to other then the obvious ones drugs and alcohol. Think about caffeine and sugar something that most people don;’t realize can be just as addicting like in my case although I was aware of the caffeine addiction I was not know with the effects of it. My Panic attacks has also lead to avoid society often in an attempt to protect myself from getting triggered attacks.
Now onto the fact that Panic attacks and Anxiety attacks are not the same. I did use a source to get this information just to be sure I’m correct.

Panic Attack

During a panic attack, the symptoms are sudden and extremely intense. These symptoms usually occur “out of the blue,” peak within 10 minutes, and then subside. However, some attacks may last longer or may occur in succession, making it difficult to determine when one attack ends and another begins.

Following an attack, it is not unusual to feel stressed, worried, out-of-sorts, or “keyed up” the remainder of the day.

According to the DSM-5, a panic attack is characterized by four or more of the following symptoms:

  1. heart palpitations, pounding heart, or accelerated heart rate
  2. excessive sweating
  3. trembling or shaking
  4. sensations of shortness of breath, difficulty breathing, or smothering
  5. feeling of choking
  6. chest pain or discomfort
  7. nausea or abdominal distress
  8. feeling dizzy, unsteady, lightheaded, or faint
  9. feelings of unreality (derealization) or being detached from oneself (depersonalization)
  10. fear of losing control or going crazy
  11. fear of dying
  12. numbness or tingling sensations (paresthesias)
  13. chills or hot flashes

Anxiety

Anxiety, on the other hand, generally intensifies over a period of time and is highly correlated to excessive worry about some potential “danger.” The symptoms of anxiety are very similar to the symptoms of panic attacks and may include:

  • Muscle tension
  • Disturbed sleep
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Fatigue
  • Restlessness
  • Irritability
  • Increased startle response
  • Increased heart rate
  • Shortness of breath
  • Dizziness

While some of these symptoms are similar to many of the symptoms associated with panic attacks, they are generally less intense. Another important distinction is that, unlike a panic attack, the symptoms of anxiety may be persistent and very long-lasting—days, weeks, or even months. (In my case they usually last a few days tops)

Therapy can help you develop ways to manage your symptoms, work through past hurts, determine your path for the future, and gain a clearer perspective that will allow for a more positive current outlook. Medications can assist you in reducing the severe symptoms, while self-help techniques can be beneficial in allowing you to work through symptom management at your own pace.

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Happy Holidays

Sunday, December 25th, 2016

While I was celebrating my xmas morning with the kids I felt grateful for all that I have, my roof over my head, food, warmth, water, my children, my health and my friends and family and I couldn’t help but also think about all those people still in war zones like Syria. I couldn’t help but think about all the refugees who fled their country and are living in refugees camps with their lives or whats left of it on hold for uncertain amounts of time. But also closer to home, my thoughts go out to those who suffer daily from traumas and invisible pains. I couldn’t help but think about all those who live in hunger and fear. My thoughts go out to those suppressed, discriminated and mistreated. And last but not least my thoughts go out to those who cause and have caused all thee pains to other people for they need love just as much if not even more. My Christmas wish this year goes out to them and their families. <3

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Father Time and Mother Nature

Sunday, October 23rd, 2016

This poem was inspired and written during the battle  against the DAPL pipelines in 2016.  Water is life.

Mni Wiconi.

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~*~ Father Time and Mother Nature ~*~

You both, abused and misunderstood, should be the talk of the town,
As the clock keeps ticking and the earth keeps crumbling down.
When will your children face the truth and take of their blinds,
What does it take to see and free them from the shackles of their minds,
Shackles with names like Revolution, Progress, Wealth and the likes.
Yet each and all will bury in fear and disbelief when nature strikes.

Earthquakes, floods and volcanic eruptions; all products of abuse,
It’s time for awareness, time for change, time for truce.
Don’t wait till your father his patience runs out,
Don’t pretend you don’t know what this is about.
We are the children of the earth, from under the heavens above,
We have the responsibility to our parents, to respect and to love.

Looking at us, they bow their heads down in shame and despair,
Begging us to stop polluting the waters the earth and the air.
Return to your origins, wake up and look what you have done,
Wake up and act now, don’t wait, act now, before its all gone.
Our Father and our Mother, had given us all that we need,
And us the children destroy them both, while blinded by greed.

~*~

~*~ 8:52 pm D.S 10/22/2016 ~*~

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A crown I shall smite

Saturday, October 22nd, 2016

A crown I shall smite

Stumbling blindly through this maze of emotions
Tears continuously flowing like rivers to the oceans
Caused by a spectrum of love, sadness, and painful sentiments
Running down from my eyes, which are weathered by all these elements

A ball of fire in my stomach, burning flames in my heart
My mind finding a way through trying to keep each apart
Blinded by fear from the past and the future to come
Heartache and abuse, physically, mentally and then some

Without seeing an image staring down in this mirror
Trying to steer through the fog to get the picture clearer
Eventually, I will find my way through, overcome all pitfalls
No longer to be kept hidden and imprisoned within these walls

Yearning for freedom, yearning for a clean throat of a breath
Tomorrow will I sentence my burdens to a certain death
Led by the strongest force, deep from within
I shall victor and nothing shall be as it has been

A fortitude covering a rainbow of genuine love and light
Which I always believed in will be the weapon I chose to fight
A belief in myself, my truth and source of ingenuity
The goodness deep within, my heartbeat, my purity

It’s growing and strengthening inside of me, I will bring my demons down
With blood and tears of these battles, I shall smite my own crown
My crown of victory, which I shall honor and treasure with pride
A crown that will be the final witness of the triumphing of my inner stride

D.S 7:48 PM 10/22/2016

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My C-PTSD Awareness

Thursday, October 20th, 2016

Before anything else. C-PTSD is something that has been done to me. NOT something I was born with (just to make that understood as well). NOT something I choose for and not something I asked for. As a victim I most likely will be dealing with the results for the rest of my life while the ones who caused it live happily ever after.

I am currently on my second part of therapy and I do not know how many will follow. I have followed a course called vroeger en verder thats basically a stabilization course for handling emotions etc. That course helped me a lot with understanding whats going on with me and helped me making plans on how to deal with difficult situations and triggers etc. Right now I am doing Linehan therapy also known as DBT Dialectical behaviour therapy that’s a type of psychotherapy that combines behavioral science with Zen concepts like acceptance and mindfulness. which has been created by Martha Linehan. She is a Professor of Psychology, Adjunct Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the University of Washington in Seattle and Director of the Behavioral Research and Therapy Clinics. Her primary research is in borderline personality disorder, the application of behavioral models to suicidal behaviors, and drug abuse. She believes she was wrongly diagnosed with schizophrenia while she thinks she had borderline personality disorder.

My healing path truly begun with awareness. Just that little label someone stuck on me; C-PTSD. Its just that, a label for not anyone with C-PTSD label will be equal to another person with C-PTSD. To begin with the suffered abuse differs, the age it appeared may differ, the length of time and the combination of more abuse and how was dealt with by people close to the victims differs. So yes it is just a label and each and everyone of us survivors ( Ill come back to the word survivors later on) have to find for our self what works for us. We need to find our own healing path. What woks for one person doesn’t work or the other. I love listening to music but at times I am being triggered I better stay away from music for its unpredictable to me f it will trigger me or not. Other people tell me they calm down from music. It helps them relax and focus on something else.

Back to awareness, the worst for me is the overwhelming emotions. Once I am triggered its a tsunami of emotions followed by another tsunami and another etc etc. Often I have no clue what hit me and that’s exactly what I am working on to become aware of so that I can act on it differently which leads to easier being able to handle the flood of emotions. I am even positive that once I fully understand where they come from and I have dealt with my past that they become less and less strong. So in other words, once you know and accept whats going on you can make changes. What changes? wait what? I can change C-PTSD?? No, I wish, you cant but you can change how you react on the symptoms which makes them more easy to handle and when you start to become aware of what triggers you you can learn to act on it differently so that you don’t become overwhelmed by emotions.

Since I have been aware of my C-PTSD I have done what I could to learn about it so I could understand what is happening to me. I understand its important for the people around me that I am close to that they understand what is going on with me so that they know it is not their fault. It is my traumas and not them. Yes something they did or said might have triggered it but please my reactions is exaggerated and not in context with the reason I got triggered. My reactions to triggers may vary but they usually spring from extreme fear and may result in anger and intense sadness.

After the triggers and my reactions to it comes shame and guilt and more sadness. An unbelievable amount of shame and guilt because the other person who triggered me had no clue what was so bad about what he she did if it was bad to begin with at all. And no matter how you try to explain it they may understand but they still had to deal with me at that moment. So more sadness is triggered because I really do not want to hurt anyone around me or make them feel bad about something they should not have to feel that bad about. I am aware it is happening and I do not approve of my behavior (the anger or jealousy or whatever). I Usually do apologize after wards but its not a fair apology because something DID trigger me, This can be very well something that was not nice to say or do to me. But please understand that is not a good reason for my exaggerated reaction.

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One of the things I have learned to help me coop with my issues as a survivor was trying to control every situation. That worked for me for a long time but now its working against me. My own survival technique is backfiring on me because I don’t need this technique anymore. My fears however push me to keep trying to control all situations. I am working hard on this issue too for it limits the people in my surrounding. People need to be free and not have to be limited to my C-PTSD. Still I explain that I do it and why I do it. That doesn’t make it right I just hope that the people near me understand it well enough to help me by not making things to difficult on me. I can’t deal well with changes of plans which goes against my nature as a gemini what makes me easy to adapt to situations easily. Sometimes I can but often I cant. I have a hard time dealing with surprises and last minute changes of plans which in my current relationship is a huge problem. I don’t have the right to control this but at the same time I know my own reactions when I am triggered and its usually one of the two. The control helps then with letting the situation not get out of hand. Now this control does not mean I make all the decisions and I have full control over what happens. I just need to know things early on. Although it helps me as a surviving technique its not fair to the other people. They should be able to live their life just as they want without being hold back by my issues. So this is another important factor I’m trying to work on.

Then last but not least I always had an issue with the word survivor because the person I was did not survived, the person I was is no more. However I also came to aware that I am still surviving and therefor the result of this is me being a survivor I guess…

Enough for now I think I typed up too much already for anyone to have patience for to read. If you made it this far thnx you are awesome!

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