Love and care.
Love and care are not just words they are actions just the sane. People make time for who they want to make time for and who they care about. They have the option to make choices and can make a choice to divide their fine differently when they feel that’s needed or when they want to.. People telling me they have no time often means they don’t think you are important enough to make time for.
When they can spend it with others they could spend it with you too or divide their time. This hurts a lot when you are the one who’s always on the sidelines. But only those on the sidelines would know. Everyone else always had people choosing them or they simply forget they didn’t found their way out all alone either. They had support and people who loved and cared supporting them.
People who don’t understand that pain can not be held accountable for not understanding something I think. But they could at least believe your word for it and be there for you when you are hurting instead if ignoring you reaching out.
They will be the ones crying and sad when someone actually reaches the point where they can not take the pain anymore. But then it’s too late. I know people may read this as a threat, yet it’s not. I’m trying to make people understand where they can make a difference.
I have reached out to friends when I was in serious emotional pain just to be turned down while at the same time I know those people have posted on their social media that someone can always call them when they feel suicidal. They don’t understand these reaching outs are those moments they should be there.
When those ppl reach the point of suicidal thoughts they usually are beyond reaching out often. When they stop reaching out. You are too late.i have been one of them. People don’t want to be really dead, they want the pain to stop. Even if they don’t get to that point simply because they are that string to carry the pain doesn’t mean you should let them live in pain.
If you say you care about someone you should actually care about that person when they tell you they are hurting and what they need. You might be the only one they reach out to. That’s not a shortcoming because it takes a lot if courage to make themselves that vulnerable that they reach out. Reward this rather then reject you are teaching them that reaching out don’t make a difference either.
The last thing they need is another rejection. It hurts. A lot.
